Letting Go
This is not an original post. It was written by an acquaintance (Jane Phoenix) and I found it so relevant to my current situation that I could not NOT save the post. I have been feeling a bit sad and lonely lately because one of my closest friends (SS) will be leaving Phoenix in a few months. This is not the first time that I will be saying goodbye to a close friend. Infact this will be the fourth time in the past 5 years that I have to let go of a friend because they moved away from my city. When I read Jane's words I could not believe how true they were and how letting go with this attitude made complete sense.
People come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes it’s a brief interaction - a few words exchanged, maybe just a smile or a simple act of kindness. Sometimes it’s longer - a few days, a few months, a few years, maybe even a lifetime.
But however long it is, they’re there for a reason - for you to learn from them, for them to learn from you, or for both of you to learn from each other.
When you’re with someone a long time, you go through many lessons together, and they’re sometimes painful, but the obstacles are overcome and you move on together - stronger, smarter and, hopefully, wiser.
But there usually comes a point when you’ve taught them all you can, and they’ve taught you all they can. We don’t see the lessons day-to-day, but we live them, we experience them, as we move through time. And then it’s time to move on, which is the most painful lesson of all.
Letting go of someone who has brought so much happiness into your life, and who has gone through life’s lessons with you, is one of the most difficult things in the world to do.
But if you can let them go, then you’re giving them the chance to grow and learn new lessons with new people - lessons they can’t learn with you.
If you can let them go, and understand why it’s necessary - that they have nothing more to teach you and you have nothing more to teach them - then you can move forward, too, meeting new people and learning new lessons and continuing to grow.
Letting go of someone is never easy, but in the end it’s best for them, it’s best for you, and one day, looking back, you’ll find it to be true.
People come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes it’s a brief interaction - a few words exchanged, maybe just a smile or a simple act of kindness. Sometimes it’s longer - a few days, a few months, a few years, maybe even a lifetime.
But however long it is, they’re there for a reason - for you to learn from them, for them to learn from you, or for both of you to learn from each other.
When you’re with someone a long time, you go through many lessons together, and they’re sometimes painful, but the obstacles are overcome and you move on together - stronger, smarter and, hopefully, wiser.
But there usually comes a point when you’ve taught them all you can, and they’ve taught you all they can. We don’t see the lessons day-to-day, but we live them, we experience them, as we move through time. And then it’s time to move on, which is the most painful lesson of all.
Letting go of someone who has brought so much happiness into your life, and who has gone through life’s lessons with you, is one of the most difficult things in the world to do.
But if you can let them go, then you’re giving them the chance to grow and learn new lessons with new people - lessons they can’t learn with you.
If you can let them go, and understand why it’s necessary - that they have nothing more to teach you and you have nothing more to teach them - then you can move forward, too, meeting new people and learning new lessons and continuing to grow.
Letting go of someone is never easy, but in the end it’s best for them, it’s best for you, and one day, looking back, you’ll find it to be true.
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